breakups
When it comes to breakups, pain is inevitable, but Humans thinks that suffering is optional.
Real-World Strategies For Singles To Overcome Fear Of Rejection
The fear of being rejected is an instinct of man, based on social and evolutionary processes. Psychologist Alfred Adler recommended that childhood experiences of rejection or exclusion may lead to increased sensitivity to rejection in adulthood. In the singles, this fear can be in the form of avoidance of dating, obsessive thinking of the interactions or unwillingness to demonstrate genuine emotions. Knowing that fear is a protective process- not an indicator of individual incompetence- makes people come to dating with a more objective view. The awareness is the initial step to the alleviation of the emotional weight of the possible rejection.
By Mark Hipsterabout 22 hours ago in Humans
The Lucky One. Content Warning.
At age 17, I knew what the word 'pedophile' meant. I considered myself book smart, mature for my age; I thought I knew how the world worked because I devoured information like it was needed fuel for my over active imagination and unlimited empathy. After graduating with high grades as a well liked but awkward teen, mainly unseen by those not in my close circle of family and friends, I was thirsty for knowledge and in need of a new era. When I actually got involved with a pedophile during my first year in university, though, the thought never really occurred that this man was pursuing me, not as a suitor but as a predator stalking their next meal. Dan was 42.
By Alycen Sparrowa day ago in Humans
tremor. Content Warning.
you have been in love with him for nearly three years now. in those three years you’ve asked him to meet you three times. and you’ve been greeted with an excuse not to every single time. and you happily listened to his excuses and understood and ignored the nagging of your subconsciousness, of your insecurities. because he made you feel so seen.
By sumiya akter4 days ago in Humans
The Weight of Maybe. Content Warning.
Trigger Warning: Sexual coercion and emotional manipulation Authors Note: This piece explores the confusion, mental conflict, and questioning that can follow experiences of coercive intimacy, a lack of clarity that often lingers long after an experience ends. If you relate to the themes present in this piece, you are not alone.
By Grace Ryder6 days ago in Humans
Falling Between Every System
Modern social systems are often described as safety nets. Employment law protects workers. Healthcare programs provide treatment. Disability benefits replace lost income. Unemployment insurance bridges job loss. Each system is presented as a safeguard designed to catch people when life disrupts their ability to function normally. Yet for many people living with disability, chronic illness, or injury, the lived experience is the opposite. Rather than forming a net, these systems stack vertically, each with its own eligibility rules, thresholds, and assumptions. Instead of catching the fall, they create gaps. People do not slip through because they failed to try. They fall because the systems were never designed to align.
By Peter Thwing - Host of the FST Podcast6 days ago in Humans
How Emotional Intelligence Helps Couples Resolve Conflicts Without Breaking Trust
Emotional intelligence refers to the capacity to become aware of emotions and to acknowledge them and control them in addition to perceiving and being empathetic to the feelings of a partner. Emotional intelligence is significant in romantic relationships so as to avoid conflict situations without affecting trust. High Emotional intelligence couples are able to recognize the triggers of emotions, are able to regulate their responses, and they are able to respond in a thoughtful manner as opposed to acting in an impulsive manner. Realizing that conflict is also a normal aspect of relationships can assist partners to face a conflict in a way that is curious and not defensive. Realizing both themselves and how their partner feels, couples are able to develop respect towards one another and keep each other emotionally safe, thus avoiding situations when disagreements destroy trust in the long-term.
By Hayley Kiyoko7 days ago in Humans
Friendship Fossilised. Content Warning.
Introduction This has been inspired by the fact that I often include old stories of mine, to expand or enhance new stories, and also to make sure that I am not repeating myself too much. It is OK for some repetition to give emphasis to some points, but I don't want a virtual repeat of any old stories.
By Mike Singleton 💜 Mikeydred 7 days ago in Humans
